Vary Your Sex Styles to Avoid Boredom

Sexual relationship between a married man and his wife is a mystery and I always implore couples not to disregard this special gift of God. The creator who endowed them with this wants them to experiment with it to the best of their abilities. He also wants them to see it as special. Sex is a divine symphony and God himself is the one leading the orchestral. There are countless different sexual positions to be enjoyed, and it is good to experiment and find the ones that suit you and your spouse best. Great sexual positions have always been celebrated.

There are lovemaking positions that generate so much skin current and married couples end up releasing much heat and energy. This explains why I often tell overweight couples not to waste so much money on work-out programmes. Mere changing sexual positions is enough to bring about weight loss. Some of the most exciting, thrilling, invigorating and exhilarating lovemaking sessions transform married lovers into glowing teachers of each other.

Well, for couples to reach these heights, they must be physically fit and emotionally stable, for the sake of energy preservation purposes.
Of course, couples must be aware of the fact that good sexual positions are enhanced by fabulous foreplay. If good foreplay techniques and great erotic massaging are done, couples can then launch themselves into interesting sexual positions depending on their preferences. Couples should never feel constrained to carry out their sexual fantasies. For married lovers that enjoy the conventional and predictable position where the man is mostly on the top, do all you can to experiment with your fantasies. The lady should actively participate by using her legs to draw her husband’s body to herself in a deep intimate position to allow penetrative sex to be more electrifying. The husband’s thrusting in and out should be aimed at bringing ecstasy to his wife. The great advantage of this traditional position is that it allows both couples to get as close as possible. Body proximity is one of several factors that can stimulate penetrative sex.

Lips contain a few energy meridians. The more couples kiss while in deep thrusting, the more the energy that flows between them. For overweight husbands, do all you can to reduce your body pressure on your wife with your arms. The joy of a man being on top is the variety it offers. In this position, couples can have the best of fun.

The wife can alter the positions of her legs and other part of her body. For example, she can use her legs to trap that of his, wrap her legs around her man’s body, or raise her knee towards her chest, enabling him to penetrate her deeply. The husband can raise the legs of his wife and enter her while facing her in an upright kneeling position. The rule of the game is this: anything works, so far it is mutually accepted.

One thing about good sexual positioning is that couples can create one for themselves; the best lovemaking can be achieved when one’s full body is pressed against that of the other partner.

When a woman is on top, she is able to build up body and pelvic tension, which is always good for deep thrusting. The position is very effective because the tension gives room for the couple to treat each other to an upright sex maneuverings.
In another variation, the knees of the wife are placed on the sides of the husband. The wife can also sit on her husband’s waist while the penis is firmly in her vagina, with her legs towards his shoulder while leaning back on her hand. The advantage of this position is that it allows the wife to be in charge, and most husbands are craving for this. Besides, the wife can better ensure her own. Wives are encouraged to take the lead and be in control. It helps to experience the act of gently dominating your partner, controlling the pace of proceedings and also introducing new variations. Have a feel of the moment, opt for the version of the back-to-front woman-on-top position. It is not only a highly erotic and novel alternative, it is also so easy to reach down.

Side by side is another perfect position for a couple who just had a new baby. All they have to do is to lay side by side like a pair of spawning fish bending their tails around each other. At penetration, the husband lifts the leg of his wife onto his and just keeps riding noiselessly. The joy of this position is that both husband and wife are sexually fulfilled while both of them keep a watching eye on the new baby, without any disturbance.

This position can be changed to mandarin docks style without still waking the baby. This side-by-side, and rear-entry position allows the man to thrust freely. And while thrusting, the man should not forget to stimulate his wife’s breast and clitoris. There is something sly and seductive about a husband slipping into his wife while she is busy nursing and not expecting it. Or while she is asleep it may be a surprising and erotic way to wake her up and also to bring her alive to the world of womanhood.

Husbands that complain of small penis can adopt a seagull-on-the wind position. Normally, in most positions, the penis thrusts downward into the vagina. But here, the penis and the vagina are parallel, so that the interior of the vagina is well exposed and stimulated very differently.

This can be best achieved when the wife sits at the edge of the bed or a low softer and shift her buttocks out to totally reveal the vagina with legs well spread for easy contact. And the wife can pull herself up and down with her legs.
In lap sitting, the wife should lower herself onto he husband’s lap and erected penis while he is seated, when the wife uses her arms to support herself while the thrusting movement is on. The point here is that the erected penis enters farther in this position than when the laps are closely in contact.

Couples who are using mattresses with noisy spring can adopt the galloping horse style; like a bareback rider clinging to the mane and tail of a speeding horse, the husband can thrust while holding his wife’s neck and foot. But he must be careful not to inflict pains on her, and the wife should pull her husband close to her as possible as she can. This is a very rewarding position.

Communication—The Soul of Sexual Pleasure! Part I

It is common for couples, especially women, to complain of dissatisfaction after sexual encounter. When this persists in marriage it can lead to either cheating or the breakdown of marital cord. Countless of books have been written proffering solutions but very few have been very beneficial. Most of these write-ups are not very practical because the issue of communication is rarely discussed.

Until the line of communication is opened up between married couples they may never get to the zenith of their mutual sexual pleasures. We should take note of the word “mutual” here. Both husband and wife are entitled to sexual pleasure. It is not the prerogative of a woman or man alone.

In African culture it is almost forbidden for a woman to seek or desire sexual pleasure. But that notion is completely wrong. For women, sexual intercourse should not be a sole exercise for procreation just to bring babies to the world! Or just an avenue to satisfy men's lust. No! Not at all!!!

For couples to really enjoy sex they must truly be in love. And sex should be the most tender expression of love toward a loved one. It should be seen as a way of giving. Sharing of deepest intimacy with one another. Therefore, the mind should be involved.

Your Frame of Mind
Couples should have the right frame of mind for a pleasurable sex. And mutual love is the main ingredient for this. A woman especially should feel loved to be at her best. And the husband will do well by putting his wife in the best mood possible. Some little things can really help to achieve this. As a matter of fact a loving phone call from your place of work can do the magic later in the day. For example a man can call his wife on the phone and say something like this: “Hello, Oh I forgot to tell you something!” The wife may inquire: “What is it?! He responds: “That I love you so much!” This is called a “setup” for the wonderful expression of mutual love to follow later in the day.

Allowance of Time
Pleasurable sexual expression should never be rushed. Most of what we call sex today are a little short of rape! Naturally men respond faster than women sexually. So, plenty of time should be allowed for women to respond to the sexual advances. It is important that a woman becomes completely wet for smooth running of the sexual engine. This is where the main subject comes in—communication.

Communication
How important is the matter of communication? The greatest blunder married couples make in their experimentation of sex is to assume. How? We tend to imagine or assume what will be pleasurable to our sexual partners. This is a complete fallacy! What you assume or imagine to be pleasurable to your partner may actually be causing distraction or even pain. Before you know it the tempo is lost and may never be regained. What is the solution? Communication! Ask your partner where and how he/she wants to be touched. The answers may surprise you.

(I hope you have enjoyed reading this little write-up. I will appreciate your comments on this article either positive or negative.)