Vary Your Sex Styles to Avoid Boredom

Sexual relationship between a married man and his wife is a mystery and I always implore couples not to disregard this special gift of God. The creator who endowed them with this wants them to experiment with it to the best of their abilities. He also wants them to see it as special. Sex is a divine symphony and God himself is the one leading the orchestral. There are countless different sexual positions to be enjoyed, and it is good to experiment and find the ones that suit you and your spouse best. Great sexual positions have always been celebrated.

There are lovemaking positions that generate so much skin current and married couples end up releasing much heat and energy. This explains why I often tell overweight couples not to waste so much money on work-out programmes. Mere changing sexual positions is enough to bring about weight loss. Some of the most exciting, thrilling, invigorating and exhilarating lovemaking sessions transform married lovers into glowing teachers of each other.

Well, for couples to reach these heights, they must be physically fit and emotionally stable, for the sake of energy preservation purposes.
Of course, couples must be aware of the fact that good sexual positions are enhanced by fabulous foreplay. If good foreplay techniques and great erotic massaging are done, couples can then launch themselves into interesting sexual positions depending on their preferences. Couples should never feel constrained to carry out their sexual fantasies. For married lovers that enjoy the conventional and predictable position where the man is mostly on the top, do all you can to experiment with your fantasies. The lady should actively participate by using her legs to draw her husband’s body to herself in a deep intimate position to allow penetrative sex to be more electrifying. The husband’s thrusting in and out should be aimed at bringing ecstasy to his wife. The great advantage of this traditional position is that it allows both couples to get as close as possible. Body proximity is one of several factors that can stimulate penetrative sex.

Lips contain a few energy meridians. The more couples kiss while in deep thrusting, the more the energy that flows between them. For overweight husbands, do all you can to reduce your body pressure on your wife with your arms. The joy of a man being on top is the variety it offers. In this position, couples can have the best of fun.

The wife can alter the positions of her legs and other part of her body. For example, she can use her legs to trap that of his, wrap her legs around her man’s body, or raise her knee towards her chest, enabling him to penetrate her deeply. The husband can raise the legs of his wife and enter her while facing her in an upright kneeling position. The rule of the game is this: anything works, so far it is mutually accepted.

One thing about good sexual positioning is that couples can create one for themselves; the best lovemaking can be achieved when one’s full body is pressed against that of the other partner.

When a woman is on top, she is able to build up body and pelvic tension, which is always good for deep thrusting. The position is very effective because the tension gives room for the couple to treat each other to an upright sex maneuverings.
In another variation, the knees of the wife are placed on the sides of the husband. The wife can also sit on her husband’s waist while the penis is firmly in her vagina, with her legs towards his shoulder while leaning back on her hand. The advantage of this position is that it allows the wife to be in charge, and most husbands are craving for this. Besides, the wife can better ensure her own. Wives are encouraged to take the lead and be in control. It helps to experience the act of gently dominating your partner, controlling the pace of proceedings and also introducing new variations. Have a feel of the moment, opt for the version of the back-to-front woman-on-top position. It is not only a highly erotic and novel alternative, it is also so easy to reach down.

Side by side is another perfect position for a couple who just had a new baby. All they have to do is to lay side by side like a pair of spawning fish bending their tails around each other. At penetration, the husband lifts the leg of his wife onto his and just keeps riding noiselessly. The joy of this position is that both husband and wife are sexually fulfilled while both of them keep a watching eye on the new baby, without any disturbance.

This position can be changed to mandarin docks style without still waking the baby. This side-by-side, and rear-entry position allows the man to thrust freely. And while thrusting, the man should not forget to stimulate his wife’s breast and clitoris. There is something sly and seductive about a husband slipping into his wife while she is busy nursing and not expecting it. Or while she is asleep it may be a surprising and erotic way to wake her up and also to bring her alive to the world of womanhood.

Husbands that complain of small penis can adopt a seagull-on-the wind position. Normally, in most positions, the penis thrusts downward into the vagina. But here, the penis and the vagina are parallel, so that the interior of the vagina is well exposed and stimulated very differently.

This can be best achieved when the wife sits at the edge of the bed or a low softer and shift her buttocks out to totally reveal the vagina with legs well spread for easy contact. And the wife can pull herself up and down with her legs.
In lap sitting, the wife should lower herself onto he husband’s lap and erected penis while he is seated, when the wife uses her arms to support herself while the thrusting movement is on. The point here is that the erected penis enters farther in this position than when the laps are closely in contact.

Couples who are using mattresses with noisy spring can adopt the galloping horse style; like a bareback rider clinging to the mane and tail of a speeding horse, the husband can thrust while holding his wife’s neck and foot. But he must be careful not to inflict pains on her, and the wife should pull her husband close to her as possible as she can. This is a very rewarding position.

Communication—The Soul of Sexual Pleasure! Part I

It is common for couples, especially women, to complain of dissatisfaction after sexual encounter. When this persists in marriage it can lead to either cheating or the breakdown of marital cord. Countless of books have been written proffering solutions but very few have been very beneficial. Most of these write-ups are not very practical because the issue of communication is rarely discussed.

Until the line of communication is opened up between married couples they may never get to the zenith of their mutual sexual pleasures. We should take note of the word “mutual” here. Both husband and wife are entitled to sexual pleasure. It is not the prerogative of a woman or man alone.

In African culture it is almost forbidden for a woman to seek or desire sexual pleasure. But that notion is completely wrong. For women, sexual intercourse should not be a sole exercise for procreation just to bring babies to the world! Or just an avenue to satisfy men's lust. No! Not at all!!!

For couples to really enjoy sex they must truly be in love. And sex should be the most tender expression of love toward a loved one. It should be seen as a way of giving. Sharing of deepest intimacy with one another. Therefore, the mind should be involved.

Your Frame of Mind
Couples should have the right frame of mind for a pleasurable sex. And mutual love is the main ingredient for this. A woman especially should feel loved to be at her best. And the husband will do well by putting his wife in the best mood possible. Some little things can really help to achieve this. As a matter of fact a loving phone call from your place of work can do the magic later in the day. For example a man can call his wife on the phone and say something like this: “Hello, Oh I forgot to tell you something!” The wife may inquire: “What is it?! He responds: “That I love you so much!” This is called a “setup” for the wonderful expression of mutual love to follow later in the day.

Allowance of Time
Pleasurable sexual expression should never be rushed. Most of what we call sex today are a little short of rape! Naturally men respond faster than women sexually. So, plenty of time should be allowed for women to respond to the sexual advances. It is important that a woman becomes completely wet for smooth running of the sexual engine. This is where the main subject comes in—communication.

Communication
How important is the matter of communication? The greatest blunder married couples make in their experimentation of sex is to assume. How? We tend to imagine or assume what will be pleasurable to our sexual partners. This is a complete fallacy! What you assume or imagine to be pleasurable to your partner may actually be causing distraction or even pain. Before you know it the tempo is lost and may never be regained. What is the solution? Communication! Ask your partner where and how he/she wants to be touched. The answers may surprise you.

(I hope you have enjoyed reading this little write-up. I will appreciate your comments on this article either positive or negative.)

Church Bans Interracial Couples in United States!

All-white church bans interracial couples (but members claim they're not racist)


An all-white church in America's rural South has voted to ban interracial couples from joining.

Members of the Gulnare Free Will Baptist Church in Kentucky voted for the resolution after their Sunday service, which says the church 'does not condone interracial marriage'.

The church member who crafted the resolution, Melvin Thompson, claims he is not racist and called the matter an 'internal affair'.
Discrimination: Stella Harville and her fiancé, Ticha Chikuni, were told they could no longer take part in services at the Gulnare Free Will Baptist Church in Kentucky. Miss Harville's father is the church secretary

Discrimination: Stella Harville and her fiancé, Ticha Chikuni, were told they could no longer take part in services at the Gulnare Free Will Baptist Church in Kentucky. Miss Harville's father is the church secretary

'I am not racist. I will tell you that. I am not prejudiced against any race of people, have never in my lifetime spoke evil' about a race, said Thompson, the church's former pastor who stepped down earlier this year.

'That's what this is being portrayed as, but it is not.'

Church secretary Dean Harville disagrees, saying the resolution came after his daughter visited the church this summer with her boyfriend from Africa.

Stella Harville and Ticha Chikuni — now her fiance — visited the church in June and Chikuni sang a song for the congregation. The two had visited the church before.

Mr Harville said he was counting the church offering after a service in early August when he was approached by Thompson, who told him Harville's daughter and her boyfriend were no longer allowed to sing at the church.

'If he's not racist, what is this?' Mr Harville said.
Divisions: Gulnare Free Will Baptist Church in Kentucky, which has voted to ban interracial couples from joining

Divisions: Gulnare Free Will Baptist Church in Kentucky, which has voted to ban interracial couples from joining

The vote by members last Sunday was 9-6, Mr Harville said. It was taken after the service, which about 35 to 40 people attended. Mr Harville said many people left or declined to vote.

The resolution says anyone is welcome to attend services, but interracial couples could not become members or be 'used in worship services or other church functions'.

Stella Harville, a 24-year-old graduate student at Rose-Hulman Institute of Technology in Indiana, called the vote 'hurtful'.

'I think part of me is still in shock and trying to process what's been going on the past few days,' she said. 'I really hope they overturn this.'

Last night the church's pastor, Stacy Stepp, said that he was against the resolution. Mr Stepp said the denomination's regional conference will begin working on resolving the issue this weekend.

The National Association of Free Will Baptists in Tennessee has no official position on interracial marriage for its 2,400 churches worldwide, executive secretary Keith Burden said.

The denomination believes the Bible is inerrant and local churches have autonomy over decision-making.

'It's been a non-issue with us,' Mr Burden said, adding that many interracial couples attend Free Will Baptist churches.

He said the Pike County church acted on its own. Mr Burden said the association can move to strip the local church of its affiliation with the national denomination if it's not resolved.

'Hopefully it is corrected quickly,' Mr Burden said.

Sexual Benefits for Married Couples!

Sex can benefit your health in many ways.

Here are seven reasons to give and get a little love – not just on special day, but any time.
Good for the heart
Sex is good for your heart. Like any physical exertion, sex is a form of cardio-exercise, which gets your heart pumping faster and helps it stay in shape. What's more, studies have shown that men who have sex two or more times per week cut their risk of a fatal heart attack by half.

Helps you lose weight
Like any form of exercise, sex helps you lose weight. Having sex for 30 minutes can burn off 85 calories. To put that in perspective: 15 minutes on the treadmill could burn up to 200 calories; 42 of these half-hour sessions, then, could shave a pound off your weight.

Boosts your immune system
While it's possible to contract a wide range of diseases, both from sex and from simple contact with others, safe sex between healthy partners can make you better equipped to fight illness.
Those who have sex once or twice a week have been shown to have higher levels of immunoglobulin A or IgA, an antibody which helps protect you from respiratory diseases like the cold and flu.
Don’t go overboard, though – in studies, those who had sex three or more times a week had the lowest levels of antibodies.

Reduces the risk of prostate cancer
For younger men, sex reduces the risk of prostate cancer. Researchers have found that men in their 20s who had five or more ejaculations per week were one third less likely to develop the cancer in later life. Although they found no such correlation for older men, you could try to prove them wrong.


Relieves stress
There's a medical explanation for the mood boost sex gives you. The brain releases endorphins during and after sex, and these neurotransmitters create a feeling of euphoria while masking the negative effects of stress.
Researchers have also found that sex lowers your blood pressure, which is good for your health and allows you to better keep your cool in stressful situations.

It relieves pain
Endorphins and lower blood pressure also mean that sex relieves pain. Endorphins are released during sex because of the heightened levels of the hormone oxytocin in your body. This has been known to alleviate arthritic and menstrual pain, among other things. Lower blood pressure can also help relieve migraines.

It helps you sleep
In addition to relieving stress and pain, the oxytocin generated during sex helps you sleep better. Sex relaxes you, promoting deeper, more restful sleep. What more do you need?www.successwithayodeb.com

Women And Sexual Desires

Should Women Enjoy Sex? To many in the western world that question may sound ridiculous. But not in Africa and not to people who are familiar with the plight of women in many places around the world. As a matter of fact in the East and Western parts of Africa women clitoris are removed from childhood.

Why? It is believed that for women sex is meant for procreation and not to be enjoyed! According to the tradition, well-intentioned parents arrange for the removal of part or most of their daughters’ genitalia. It has been called female circumcision. But most experts are now calling it FGM (female genital mutilation), a term that more accurately describes this procedure.

As a result of this harmful practice some women have developed permanent, painful disabilities. Even some have died as a result of this painful experience. Some medical authorities have even claimed that FGM may play a part in the transmission of AIDS in Africa. And as a result of great numbers of immigrants from Africa and the Middle East to Australia, Canada, Europe, and the United States, this mutilation of females is becoming a public-health issue in some Western health-care facilities.

The problem is now beyond African problem. As a result the western world is also legislating against the custom. England, France, Italy, and Sweden are some of the European countries where FGM is illegal.

I mentioned in the beginning of this article that one of the reasons behind this practice is that it is erroneously believed that female genital organs are unclean and must be purified by cutting them away. They also think that only men have the right to enjoy sexual pleasure. It is also believed that FGM improves fertility, discourages sexual immorality, and increases a girl’s chances for marriage.

However, it is not uncommon for many African women to suffer from frigidity as a result of this practice. And this has led to marital problem.

What do you think? Is it not proper for women to enjoy sex as men do?